I started going to a new church in Charlotte right before the new year, and this past Sunday the pastor started a sermon series called "The Me I Want To Be." This past week he spoke on the types of "me's" that we don't want to be. The one that struck me the most was this one...
The me I don't want to be...the me I think I should be.
It's really easy to tell ourselves we need to be this and we need to be that because that's we see other people doing. I am so guilty of this. I see the way someone else lives there life, and I fall into a trap of thinking that's how I should be living my own life. I see friend's buying new cars and homes, and I so often think, "Oh, I need that too," when that is far from the case.
Here's the part of his sermon that really got me though. His next words are what hit me.
"When you compare yourself with someone else, you're comparing your insides with their outsides."
Read that a second time if you need to. It's powerful. While sitting there and listening to the pastor, I suddenly realized how ridiculous my wants and needs for my exterior appearance can be. When I look at someone else and think "they have it all," I don't see the whole picture. I am taking my feelings, and comparing it with only the parts of them I can see. From the outside, I don't know that they're completely broken on the inside. Or maybe they're hurting due to trouble at home with their spouse. I also don't know anything about their financial situation just because they have a big house and a nice car. There's very little that you can tell about a person from the outside, so why do we compare ourselves to them from that view?
Maybe this isn't a struggle for you. I try hard not compare myself to others, but it's definitely something that can be a struggle. My prayer is that I can be secure in who I am, based on my insides. That my appearances and no one else's appearances can sway the person that I want to be and the person that I am called to be.